Upset with selfish world? Why it happens? What to do?
The query from a follower who is upset with selfish world: “Sir, I wanted to ask one thing…. what to do if ur most close friend who use to be a very bold n lively kind of person, but, now a days feels as if this world is going to break her and she is losing the power to face this cunning world by being fake.. She had suffered so much and don’t want that to happen again and so, she don’t trust people now a days. Plz tell me how should I help her satisfactorily?
This is because your friend has expected this society and the world as perfect. That is why, such happenings affect her. If our expectations are high, there are chances for disappointments. So, the problem is with her expectation.
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If your friend had done mostly good karma in her previous birth(s), she would have taken birth in heavenly planets, and will be enjoying only pleasures there without any distress.
If she had done mostly bad karma in her previous birth(s), she would have taken birth in hellish planets, and will be facing only problems/ pains there without any happiness.
But, she has taken birth in the earth because, she has done both good and bad karma in her previous birth(s). So, she has to face both happiness and pains in this earth.
Earth is a KARMA BHOOMI that is intermediate between heavenly planets and hellish planets that offers both happiness and pains. We are given birth in this earth to bring all our past karma to zero and go back to the Godhead.
How to zero our karma? By facing the reactions for all our past actions. By patiently accepting the sufferings and face them. In your friend’s case, she would have remained as a cause for the distress of many people in her previous birth. So, she is facing more disappointments in this birth.
Therefore, she has to face them with a balanced mind. She has to accept her past karma and patiently, silently and boldly face all these disappointments.
Krishna Himself terms this earth as “Dhukkalayam… Asasvatham” that means “painful and temporary”. Then, how can we expect the life on earth to be ONLY happy? No chance. Every people is facing some kind of problems on earth. Somebody with poverty; Some with handicapedness; Some with diseases; Therefore, no one is immune to problems.
When a dog barks, if you fear and run, that dogs start to chase you. If you stand boldly, it becomes silent after some time. Similarly, if you fear or get disappointed with your problems, the problems will continue. If you face them or start to live with them, they can not affect you.
Therefore, ask her to accept this world with its negatives also. Ask her NOT TO expect this earth like heaven.
This earth is a blend of good hearted people as well as selfish people.
In his kaliyuga, the selfish people will be 75% and good people will be just 25% or less, as the dharma devata is standing on just one leg instead of four legs as said in Srimad Bhagavatham.
Thus, we will have to face cheaters. We can not escape from it. However, we can remain without being affected by the problems.
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Ask your friend to read Bhagavad Gita, as it will teach her to face both happiness and pains equally.
Ask her to visit a nearby sathsanga (spiritual foum) like ISKCON every week and associate with the devotees there.
When she starts observing devotees, she will start to face this world with a balanced mind. This will give confidence.
We can not change this world to fit to us. We only have to fit with this world and insulate ourselves without being affected by the people.
If your friend follows this, she will not be affected in future.