Is marrying a boy who loves two girls and like to marry both, safe?
A Girl devotee (Name hidden) asked like this:
“Hare Krishna Prabhuji. Prabhuji I want to share something. In ……… I met a guy and eventually I fell in love with him. Once he took me to his house and we engaged in the wrong thing. Afterwards, once he told me to send him my private video. I did. He swear on his mother, sister and God that he has deleted. He never ever blackmailed me or something. I asked him many times. Do you have. Later on he said one day that I really love and marry you but at the same time I love another girl. She is always helping me. She was even ready to sell her gold chain for me. He said that even Bhagvan Shiv married twice. It’s okay if I too had two wives. On this I said if you like that girl so much than let’s not talk. This is something I won’t tolerate. That girl too talked to me saying that he is serious for you. But, I ignored and eventually I never talked to him. Every time he sweared that he doesn’t have. After our breakup I blocked him from everywhere and changed my contact too. Now prabhuji it’s been more than 9 years. He is married to that girl only. I came to know coz once I was checking his account. There is no mutual friend or anyone also. But, sometimes I feel what if he still had that video but on other side I also think that it’s been more than 10 years by now if he would have he would have blackmailed me and now he is happily married and as far as I know him he asked for all that thing from that girl also. But, still bit worried at times. I overthink in this regard. What should I do prabhuji? Pls help me.”
REPLY:
What nonsense this is!
Where is the culture in this case?
That boy took you to his house and both of you involved in violations in privacy.
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You should have recovered from that atleast with that.
But, you have sent the recording of your private nonsense Video.
Then, he married another girl.
He says that he will marry you too if it is ok for you.
That wife also recommends you to marry her husband as additional wife or second wife.
This is the best example for the terms NONSENSE and IGNORANCE.
Why you people go to bed with someone without a legal license?
How can a girl dare to record her bare body and send to someone?
After doing all these things, now, you are living in fear.
A Conditioned soul has 4 defects. One among them is that every person has cheating tendency. Whenever he gets a chance, he will cheat.
The cheating magnitude may be very small or big. But, everyone has that tendency.
Example for very small cheating: When we board a bus, we occupy a seat by running fast. The aged persons and physically challenged persons, being unable to run and occupy the seats travel by standing.
This is also a cheating tendency because we act cleverly against the weak persons.
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So, without getting married, going for sex is a risky one.
It will make the girl’s personality weak and she will lose her respect with that companion boy.
If a boy insists to see such private videos of his friend or companion, he is a rascal number one. The girl should understand his motive and go away from him to protect herself. Just because he assures promises on God to marry her, she should not expose herself to that rascal.
A good boy from a good family will not demand such things from a girl whom he respects.
If a boy asks private video from a girl, that means, he does not give respect to her dignity.
How can that rascal protect her dignity throughout her life?
He may even film her secretly in bathroom, bedroom, etc., after marrying her.
So, a girl should be very strict in maintaining her dignity without compromise.
She should immediately quit the friendship of a boy who demands her private videos or photos. She should never allow him to film her for any reason.
Because there can be no guarantee that he will be a good boy if he demands such private contents of a girl or to have physical violations with her.
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He is definitely a rascal.
Let us come to your matter.
Just go away from him. Don’t enquire again and again about that video. It may make him to blackmail to make you agree for further violations.
Since he did not use it for 10 years, he might have deleted it.
Silently go away from him without insulting him and continue your life by marrying a guy.
Marrying a boy who loves two girls and like to marry both is not safe.
Don’t marry that boy because there will be no guarantee that he will give you good life since he is already living with another lover.
After you have peacefully left him, if he contacts you and tells you that he is going to use that Video in public domain, just give a Police complaint against him immediately, without delay. Then, Let him handover that Video to police.
However, don’ t fear and spoil your peace right now.
Just hope that he will not have that video. Start your new life peacefully. Silently go away from him.
If he threatens you about Video, then, you can give police complaint. They will recover that and prevent damage.
Hereafter lead a life with dignity and high and strict principles.
Hope you are now clear whether marrying a boy who loves two girls and like to marry both, safe.
Best of luck.
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