HOW SHOULD WOMEN PROTECT THEIR DIGNITY AND PRIVACY IN LIFE?
Please take my advice as coming from the heart of a sincere guy who have four sisters and who cares the freedom of women, but at the same time, cares also the safety of women seriously.
In my online presence since 2011, I have received messages during different period from an unmarried girl and two married and divorced women that their PERSONAL photos have appeared in some sites and their friends informed them about it. Those pictures had been taken from their bed room itself when they were sleeping or being with husband. A woman had written that her husband compelled her to allow him to film the interactions between them through his mobile phone so that he can watch the same whenever he thinks of her when he tours outstation on his marketing job.
A woman had cried in her message that her ex-husband (whom she divorced because of tortures) had posted the interactions between them in a site with her mobile number and she is getting calls from many for men in her mobile phone.
This article is about this matter only, ie, Women Safety in this technology dominated world and I like to guide the women seriously in this matter.
I REQUEST THE WOMEN TO SERIOUSLY FOLLOW THE FOLLOWING ADVICES WITHOUT ANY EXCUSES
NEVER ALLOW EVEN YOUR HUSBAND/ FRIEND/ LOVER TO TAKE PHOTOS
Now a days, there are many sites that encourage the viewers to upload their own real time videos. This has given opportunity for the persons to easily upload them that can be seen by crores of people.
There are some husbands/ lovers/ friends who has a kind of “ITCHING” to record these activities. They find a THRILLING in seeing their own acts with the wife/ lover/ friend. Therefore, they make use of the “EMOTIONAL” SITUATION OF THE WOMEN DURING THESE ACTS, and first request them casually to allow them to record so that both of them can view and delete later (or) he can remember him even in her absence during tours.
Very few wives/ lovers/ friends allow him to record. They believe that he seems to be a nice guy and he will not misuse it. If it is their husbands, they blindly believe him that he will not misuse it.
If the wife/ lover/ friend does not permit to record, they start to compel. They show their anger and go away. This make the wives/ lovers/ friends to succumb to the pressures from him and they permit him.
If the wife/ lover/ friend does not permit even after his pressures some persons record secretly without the knowledge of wife/ lover/ friend.
That’s all. Finished. The women’s dignity has gone and she is now at great risk of getting exposed publicly. Most of the husbands do not usually misuse these recordings, but, keep them always in their mobile phone or computer. However Even after they delete these media, when the phone or computer goes for service to the technicians, they can retrieve the deleted media using some recovery softwares. Then, they may spread them everywhere, or blackmail the family.
Moreover, the relations may not always be fine between the couples/ lovers/ friends in this serious kaliyuga. KALIYUGA IS THE YUGA OF QUARRELS. Therefore, in case there are some misunderstandings/ quarrels between the husband and wife or between the lovers or friends, and they happen to part their ways, the problem may start. If the husband/ lover/ friend feels cheated by that woman, they plan to retaliate to this and hence they misuse those media. This spreads like fire.
The entire image of that wife/ lover/ girl friend gets damaged and she loses her dignity and fame in the society.
Some lovers or friends have an “ITCHING” to show these media to his friends. This too seriously damages the dignity of that girl/ wife.
Just imagine, what the position of a girl will be, if the entire world is seeing her in such a condition. When some men do like this, in many cases, the girl/ woman cry within them or a few end their life. Only a very few girls/ women report to the police about the acts of that person.
Now you may ask: “I believe my husband/ lover/ friend. Why should I suspect him when he records me? Without faith, there can be no relations. Can a wife live with the husband anticipating separation?”
This is utter foolishness. In this kaliyuga of quarrels, NOTHING IS PERMANENT. ANYTHING MAY CHANGE AT ANY TIME. ANY PERSON MAY BECOME A CRIMINAL AT ANY TIME.
As per the scriptures, EVERY CONDITIONED INDIVIDUAL IN THIS MATERIAL WORLD HAS THE NATURAL TENDENCY TO COMMIT OFFENCES AND CHEAT.
Therefore, when an opportunity comes, technology can be misused by anyone. Do not expect that a good person will always remain a good person. Anyone may change or cheat at any time.
Even the couples who were very intimate months or years ago go to the courts for divorce now. What made them to break their marriage that was performed in the presence and blessings of hundreds of people?
Therefore, THE HUSBAND/ LOVER/ FRIENDS WILL MAINTAIN THE DIGNITY OF HIS WIFE/ LOVER/ FRIEND, ONLY UNTIL THE RELATION BETWEEN THEM REMAINS SMOOTH.
If any issues start between them, WE CAN NOT PREDICT HOW HE WILL BEHAVE.
At this time of serious issues or separation, if these media remain with him, he may misuse it as a retaliation.
FOLLOW THESE ADDITIONAL IMPORTANT TIPS
WOMEN SAFETY IN TECHNOLOGY
(1) In case the person is with you while hearing the music through his ear phone keeping the mobile phone in his hand, get alerted. He may be recording while pretending as if he is hearing the music.
(2) In case any mobile phone is kept in the standing position touching the wall, check it. Or, if there are any suspicious objects in the room, be vigilant and come out. Remember, now a days, the cameras have come even in the size of buttons.
(3) Always go to sleep wearing a dress like salwar/ churitar that will never expose your body even during deep sleep. And, learn to be under your control during sleeping as done by the wives of earlier periods, decades ago. It is better to sleep in a separate room, or with mother, if the girl is unmarried, particularly when any guests have come to your home.
(4) It is the system of older periods to switch the lights off (or) with the dim lamps during night time. It is safe.
(5) A woman had messaged that her husband took photo when she was coming out of bathroom. Therefore, always be in a decent dress and change the dress in the bathroom itself.
(6) Behave decently with husband/ lover/ friend whenever you tour with him. Some locals or tourists may record your activities.
(7) Do not bath in public places and always bath inside the bathroom. In case it is a spiritually important river or pond, and you feel auspicious to take bath, just shower some water on your head, or, bathe wearing full clothes and do not change your clothes in the outer place. Go to your hotel room and change the clothes.
(8) If you love anyone, NEVER TAKE PHOTOS WITH HIM , EVEN IF HE COMPELS YOU OR THREATENS YOU THAT HE WILL PART YOU. NEVER SPEND TIME WITH HIM PRIVATELY. If you love him, arrange for marriage immediately. Do not prolong too much. Behave with him decently till marriage.
(9) VERY IMPORTANT:
NEVER SPEAK YOUR LOVE OR DESIRES THROUGH PHONE TO ANYONE. BECAUSE, NOW A DAYS, MOST OF THE CALLS ARE RECORDED SINCE MOST OF THE PHONES COME WITH THE AUTO RECORDING FACILITY FOR CALLS OR MANY APPS ARE AVAILABLE FOR RECORDING. In case your love fails, he may misuse them.
(10) VERY IMPORTANT:
NEVER TELL PERSONAL THINGS THROUGH LETTERS, MAILS, PHONE SMS MESSAGES OR WHATSAPP/ FACEBOOK OR ANY OTHER MEDIA. SPEAK TO HIM ONLY ORALLY IN PERSON, NOT IN WRITING.
(11) Never speak about your past and present personal matters to any of your friends (or) family members. This is purely unnecessary. They may give wrong advice (or) misuse those information.
(12) If you are staying in a hostel sharing the room with another or a few girls, take extra care in clothes. Even your class or workmate girls may record you playfully, it may become a record for future. Therefore always bath in a safe bathroom. Sleep with a safe dress. Maintain a decency in hostels. Change the room if your room-mate is not good cultured.
(13) IN GENERAL, LOVE BEFORE MARRIAGE IS NOT COMPULSORY. Give the responsibility of arranging a groom for you to your parents. However, if anyone tells that he loves you and he is fit to marry you in your observation/ review, ask him to marry you by talking to your parents. Do not prolong your love for long period. You need not spend months (or) years to understand a person.
VERY IMPORTANT AND BOLD SUGGESTION
These are all just some tips and situations a very few girls/ women may have to face in her life. The purpose of writing this article is NOT TO show that all males may be like that and there is no security for all women. Some do it whenever opportunity comes. Some do not dare to do so. That’s all. The point is, every affected girl would have trusted her husband / lover/ boy friend before he acts against her keeping these ugly evidences.
Why should a boy or husband record these? Isn’t it very personal and sensitive? If anyone does so, please note that he is irresponsible, or, must have some ill motive to keep that as a tool to threaten you or defame you in future.
REMEMBER! All our ancestors led a healthy, long and loving marriage life even without these nonsense technology. These devices have increased the threat for our safety. Now a days, phones are available even for a price of ten dollars or about Rs.500 in India. Therefore, anyone, even an irresponsible guy or psycho misuse the technology.
THEREFORE, ALWAYS KEEP IT IN MIND THAT GIRLS/ WOMEN HAVE NO PRIVACY IN HOMES AS WELL AS PUBLIC PLACES BECAUSE HUNDREDS OF LENSES (EYES) ARE ALWAYS WATCHING THEM KEEPING THE TECHNOLOGY WITH THEM. There are a section of men who are always looking for such OPPORTUNITIES.
He may be available near you also. Who knows? If a girl/ woman REMAIN CARELESS, she may fall as a victim.
That is why, I have written this article to advise you to ALWAYS REMAIN IN A SAFE CLOTHING WITH INSIDE PANTS AND PANTIES, AND TO HAVE A SAFE INTERACTION WITH HUSBAND.
MY ADVICE TO UNMARRIED GIRLS WILL BE: PLEASE AVOID EXCESSIVE MINGLING WITH FRIEND OR LOVER. If a girl avoids such acts, she is safe. And, SHE WILL RETAIN HER DIGNITY ALSO.
A FINAL NOTE
In case the husband requests or compels a wife FOR RECORDING, she must firmly refuse that and warn him strongly about consequences. She must show the other side of her face that is very strong in fighting for her safety. In case, the husband compels further or threatens Her, SHE SHOULD NOT HESITATE TO PART HIM AND GO TO HER PARENTS.
WHY SHOULD A GIRL LIVE WITH SUCH AN UGLY HEARTED PERSON WHO HAS PRETENDED AS A GOOD GUY SO FAR? It is very risky to live with such a husband and it is better to live alone.
If your husband is a gem who behaves decently understanding your privacy wishes, give all your love to him. He deserves it.
A husband deserves the association of his wife ONLY UNTIL HE SAFEGUARDS THE DIGNITY AND PRIVACY OF HIS WIFE. If not, he is not fit to be a husband. The wife can boldly part him immediately on the same day.
I have written this article from my heart after observing the present trends of society that is paining my heart. If you find this article useful, share this using the share buttons in any social media in which you have accounts. This may save the dignity and image of any innocent girl/ woman.