What if others use me for their selfish motives though I help them?

What if others use me for their selfish motives though I help them?

A male follower (Name hidden) asked:

“I saw u giving very valuable guidance to people who approached u. I too have a very humble request to u plz help me out or i will be lost within myself. I always try my best to help everbody..i love everybody from my heart..i understand everybody problems bt when it comes my turn there z not even a single person who understand me. Even my friends always make use of me and never understand me and underestimate me..I pray to Lord krishna daily to help me out to either live in this world or plz take me out of this selfish world where there is no value of love, honesty,care,humanity.. My confidence is totally demolished and my brain does not work at all..I know this world is selfish and i should concentrate on my karma but wn somebody does something wrong with anybody i am not able to watch that not i am able to help him..No doubt, i too live in this kalyuga and also do mistakes bt when somebody does something wrong with somebody i become sad and depressed.. I’m not able to do justice with myself, my family, my profession and so on..plz plz plz help me..”

REPLY:

This feeling of loss of hope have come to you because, you expect that others should never commit mistakes.  That is not possible.  Everyone of us commit mistakes.  You say that they are selfish.  I tell you 90% of the world population is selfish.

(Upset with this selfish world?  READ THIS POST.)

For example, you like to go to Varanasi from Patna on an urgent trip.  You have not reserved ticket for you. You come to the Patna Junction to board a train bound to Varanasi.  There is heavy crowd in the train and the passengers are travelling by standing. It is very difficult even to stand. This is the last train for that day from Patna to Varanasi.  There will be no bus also at that time. What you will do?  You will somehow board the train and travel atleast by standing BEARING THE DIFFICULTIES. Because, you must go there at any cost.

Same case in our life. Because of our past karma, we have taken birth in this world like this and face both good and bad reactions. You have been asked to live in this world for many decades and face everything.  This is like a jail. You can not escape from this jail. Because the justice department, ie,  Karma network is making you to face everything that prevents your escape.

Though you like to escape from this jail in the middle by committing suicide, you will first face the punishment of ghost body till your natural death date comes and then take birth again and continue to face every nonsense again. So, it is childish to get upset for the thing that can never be corrected by you.

(Having Suicide thoughts?  Read this post!)

We have to live with selfish people only.  If they have anything good, let us utilize it. Otherwise, just live this life as just a spectator of all the events.

Never involve yourself in any of these negative activities and insulate yourself from the negatives of others as much as possible.

At the same time, stop worrying about other selfish people.  They will be corrected by God through similar karmic reactions by giving suitable experiences in due course of time.

(Do you have selfishness?  Correct yourself as said in THIS POST.)

Just advise them once or twice.  If they do not correct themselves, stop worrying about them. It is very difficult to correct the nature of a serious offender. Unless he faces severe experiences through others, he will review himself.

If a person is sentenced to jail for 3 years by the higher courts, he must compulsorily live in that jail for 3 years.  If he escapes from that jail he will be caught by police again and again jailed with extra months of jail term for having escaped. At the same time, many prisoners learn a lot from the jails and come out as good people.

Similarly, you have been sentenced to the maximum of 100 years of imprisonment here. You can not escape till the fixed term ends.  If you escape, you will be again sent here by karma network.

So, if possible, you can change atleast one person. Nothing else can be done by us.

So, instead of worrying for the things that are inevitable, concentrate in your assigned duties and chosen devotional practices that may help you to forget the negatives of the people of this world.

And  I always remember, Good People give us happiness; bad people give us lessons.

Whenever, someone upsets me, I think of my creator.  The worry goes out and I get the strength to face such people.

(Are you frustrated?  READ THIS POST!)

Try  my technique.  You will be relieved from all your pains.

All the best.

Additionally, READ THIS POST also to learn to deal with the Jealous People.

If you have the nature of getting jealous on others, THIS POST may help you!

Author: RAJAN

Having a long observation and association with all sections of people for decades, Rajan is promoting online media in different platforms including this blog website to guide lakhs of regular followers to prevent and solve their problems. He gives complete Counsellings and Tips on Medical, Health, Psychological, Women safety, Child safety, Issues in Family Relations, Love, Marriage, Personal life, etc.! His services have helped thousands of people to come out of negative thoughts and to change their way of approaching the problems in their life and hence he is considered as their trusted FRIEND to share the problems and get them counselled. He is also well known to follow strict confidentiality in his counselling services.

2 thoughts on “What if others use me for their selfish motives though I help them?”

  1. Hare Krishna to all , I am a sincere devotee of lord Krishna , I regularly do my chanting and I read Bhagavad Gita at home and I oftenly visit ISKCON temple in my area to stay In touch with devotees also but I am going through a very difficult phase of my life which I don’t know how to deal with , that’s why I want some help or guidance from this page so that I can deal with the issue I am facing in my life now . Like I said I am sincerely devoted to lord Krishna but my wife she is very materialistic women …she don’t like all what I follow , I mean she don’t say it in my face but I don’t know how should I convince her the Krishna is supreme and ultimate he is …. she is very much inclined to travel , eat outside foods , shopping always and I am very simple man … I don’t know how should I turn her into a devotee of lord so that she should be more inclined toward dharma then materialistic life style , and because of her this behave I am always irritated in day to day life because even at home we cook prasadam , if I tell her go offer only then she goes to offer , if I say go offer a ghee lamp only then she goes otherwise no and if she say let’s go to temple she mostly always refuses with all kinds of excuses and if it’s about going in shopping malls then she is always ready . So please help me guide me that how could I change her this behaviour and bring her more close to Krishna. Thanks Hare Krishna
    Haribol

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