Is Reunion after break up with husband advisable if he feels & calls?
A woman follower (Name hidden) asked like this:
“I have married for a year and due to my mother in law insecure and obsession to cleanliness, one day she lambasted insulted with all abusive words with all her anger, resentment , hatred which she had developed and suppressed and eventually triggered me to get out of her house. On the same lines my husband has been physically and verbally very violent which I tried to brush aside as it’s intial phase of marriage. Once my other in law insigated him to leave me,My husband didn’t take a stand, nor support and it’s been a year after separation, efforts to reconcile has been futile.I have lost the hope and find my husband very aggressive, abusive, nightmarish, someone who has old school of thoughts, chauvinistic nature, and always speaking ill of my family.He doesn’t seem to have realized and feel sorry for anything which has happened and keeps bringing new angles and though I want to bury the hatchet and move forward his philandering ways doubts me. This is the feel after having discussed with the their and our elders of home and on personal front. I am confused whether to go ahead at least for social censure, where he is still not showing a ray of hope to get back together or wait as time favors or leave. I am almost 35 and he is 41 and I hardly see any future left to us.”
REPLY:
Reunion after break up with husband is advisable if he seems to feel. Why? Read this Post.
See, this world is filled with the imperfect people only.
(What if the husband doubts wife for talking to others more? READ HERE!)
No one is perfect in this world.
Everyone of us have some kind of flaws.
We have to run our life with imperfect people only.
Wherever you go, you can meet the selfish people.
No boy can have a girl as wife who has only the positives.
No girl can have a boy as husband who has only the positives.
If you talk to a couple from a poor family, they will list many problems that are arising because of the non availability of money. They may speak as if they will solve all their problems if they have money.
(Should a wife resign her job if her husband pressurizes her? READ HERE!)
On the other side, if you talk to a couple from a rich family, they will list their problems that can not be solved even with millions of money. They may speak that money can not solve all the problems of life.
If you ask the top leader of a country, he too will have problems like being unable to walk freely on road like a common man.
Thus,
So, everyone is in a position to accept a person with more positives and less negatives.
This is the reality of life.
But, a beggar is living happier than all others.
Why?
He will not hesitate to sleep on the platforms. He will not hesitate to eat from low grade roadside hotels.
Since he does not worry about tomorrow, he has no worries.
(Can a wife refuse to spare her earnings for husband’s family? READ HERE!)
A beggar is happy because, he has learnt to live with the problems. This is the secret behind his peaceful life.
Only the rich and middle class are crying telling their problems.
Have you seen any beggar crying with the problems?
Again I say: He has learnt to live with the problems. So, he is peaceful even with the problems.
In your case, you have all the necessities to live. Your husband might have committed some mistakes in the past.
Now, he is telling that he will keep you happy.
Reunion after break up with husband is happening everywhere if he feels & call.
Why can’t you give him a chance?
And, why doesn’t the woman understand the difficulty of her husband about whom to support when there is a verbal or silent fight between his parents and wife?
(Wife Vs Parents- whom to choose when the wife does not tolerate the presence of your parents? READ HERE!)
If he supports his wife, his mother may accuse him as if he has fallen in the hands of his wife after marriage.
If he supports his mother, the wife may accuse him and go to her parent’s home.
In many families, the husbands face blackmail from either the parents or wife or from the both.
Fearing for such issues, some boys even hate the marriage.
The point is, we should learn to live with the problems and problematic people.
Unless there is a life threat in the husband’s house, the wife should think hundred times before leaving the husband.
Ok, you have already parted your husband. He is now feeling in your absence and calling you back assuring good life.
(HOW TO DEAL WITH THE POSSESSIVENESS OF MOTHER-IN-LAW ON YOUR HUSBAND? READ HERE!)
It is good for you to give him a chance.
Learn to forgive others understanding their real situation that forced them to commit mistakes.
Because we too are not perfect; Review how many mistakes and defects we have.
Without realizing that, do not find fault on others.
So, honour the request of the husband.
Give him some chances to create harmony between you and his parents.
It may take time.
(Should a wife not divorce even a drinking, smoking and abusing husband? READ HERE!)
Be patient and hopeful till that happens.
Wherever you go, there will be problems.
If you understand this fact, you will start to consider your own problems as if nothing.
View the problems of others by viewing from their side.
Then, You can understand the problems of others.
This is my view about Reunion after break up with husband.
(What are the duties of husband in a marriage life? READ HERE!)