How to lead a disciplined life without Premarital & Post marital violations?
The reader asked:
“dear sir, i always get thoughts to commit offenses with opposite gender (editted). how to correct me”
REPLY:
This is the major issue for many in this world of uncontrolled media that are corrupting the minds of people with sense inducing contents.
It seems that it has become habitual for you. If you perform the same activity again and again, it becomes a habit. That is why, I am telling the youth NOT EVEN TO START A HABIT that is not essential for life.
(how to repent for my violations before marriage and develop devotion? READ HERE)
I HAVE AVOIDED SLEEPING DURING THE DAY-TIME. Because, Once I start it, it will become a habit.
There is a principle called “TWO LINES PRINCIPLE”. If you like to make a line small without erasing it, you have to draw a bigger line near to that old line. Now, the first line line becomes small.
If you find a problem as big, you will forget that problem when you face another big problem.
Similarly, if you find something as the enjoyable thing, that means, you have not come across the most enjoyable thing yet.
The same applies here to lead a disciplined life.
You may be thinking that the sense gratification with opposite gender is the real enjoyment. But, you have not tasted the real bliss in being a good devotee under the shelter of Lord.
A frog inside a well will think that the world is of the size of that well only. It does not know the oceans and the part of earth outside.
Thus, those who are going behind girls/ boys are also like frogs. They are thinking that real happiness lies in their bodies. They are also thinking that these temporary pleasures are the real/ ultimate pleasures.
But, remember that these pleasures are temporary and will never keep you peaceful. Even while going to bed, they will not get immediate sleep. Every material pleasure is followed by pain. This is the nature of the material pleasures.
(I am disturbed by almost all types of desires. Can I get reformed? READ HERE!)
If you ask the married elders, they will say that there is nothing in the life of sense gratification. The real married life lies in the love of both the husband and wife together towards Krishna. If they are just attached to each other, but not with Krishna, it is just a waste of human life.
Any life without devotional involvement is the waste of life.
When we do sinful acts with girls / boys again and again, one bad day, we will be caught and we will be branded as womanizers and publicized. Today, he may escape uncaught. Tomorrow also , he may escape. But, one day, he will be caught and all his family, friends and the whole town/ world will come to know about his real character. After that, he can not walk boldly on road.
So, if you like to be bold and free in life, stop such thoughts/ activities from this moment. Then, you need not fear for anybody. And, you need not fear for hellish life also after death.
Whenever you see a girl, think of her parents. Her father may be pulling rickshaw for the welfare of his daughter. If you spoil a girl, you are spoiling the hope and future of that girl as well as her innocent parents who are expecting their daughter to be safe in life.
If you spoil a girl, you are killing her parents because when they come to know that their daughter has been exploited, they in fact die within heart or even actually in some cases.
If you want that nonsense 5 minutes pleasure, marry a girl and have that with her alone. Though you go to 100 girls, all are same, but you will go to hell because you have killed 100s of fathers and mothers.
A girl may be beautiful, but she and her family may have big painful stories.
One of the students in my college was chasing a beautiful girl of 19 years. His aim was to have pleasure not to marry her. Unable to bear his tortures, she one day called him to a park. That boy was very happy that she is going to give her consent for being happy with him.
When he happily met her in the park, she showed her medical reports that said that she was a cancer patient who is going to die in 6 months or one year. She advised him that a girl does not have beauty alone with her, but also many pains in her heart and in her family. So, she advised him not to see the body of a girl, but her heart and her right to live with dignity. she also told him that no one has any right to intrude in the privacy of any girl.
(What karma gives a spouse who had violations before marriage? READ HERE!)
After that, that boy showed many changes in his activities. He stopped chasing the girls for pleasures.
Will you lose anything by quitting these bad habits? No. In fact, you will earn more good people; More credibility.
The TWO LINES PRINCIPLE will definitely work out. When we taste a HIGHER TASTE, all other temporary pleasures will become INFERIOR.
So, involve in devotional practices sincerely. Talk to the devotees in your nearby temple to help you involve in devotion seriously. If you openly speak, they will guide you accordingly. Divert your mind in devotion to Krishna. Taste the highest bliss of being a disciplined devotee. Gradually, you will forget mundane thoughts and embrace a devotional way of life.
This will definitely happen.
Hope this helped to know how to lead a disciplined life without Premarital & Post marital violations.
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