What to do if our beloved people break our trust?
A female follower who requested anonymity asked like this:
“I need to ask a question. I request you please don’t show my name with the post. My question is: What to do when our loving ones break our trust, to whom we are very enthusiastic. Can that trust be regained? Can i get relief from that deep pain. No doubt we have such a strong relation that anything happened can’t break our relation, but what about that pain? Do i have to live the rest of my life with that pain? This can also be possible that i get hurted again, so what should i do? Should i get mentally prepared? Is there no such option that they realize they are wrong and he/she should not do such things that hurts someone?”
REPLY:
These incidents are happening for us to make us more matured. if you are given only happiness in life, you will become an irresponsible person who never cares other people and you will be living in the uncontrolled manner.
So, the Lord teaches us through some people. Lord does not come directly and take lessons for us. He acts through other people only.
(Is Reunion after break up with husband advisable if he feels & calls? READ HERE!)
I presume that you have been very innocent in life so far and you have not realized the ACTUAL NATURE of the people. He introduces some people to cheat you. Thus, He teaches you that NOT ALL PEOPLE ARE INNOCENT and YOU MUST BE VERY CAREFUL IN DEALING WITH PEOPLE. So, hereafter, you will deal with people with care.
In your case, if you expect that all people will accept and honour your expectations, you will get disappointed.
If you meet 10 people,
two people may hurt you with words,
two people may speak/ act secretly against you,
two people may publicly accuse you and two people may betray your trust.
But, still there will be one or two among these ten people who will respect your feelings and accept you with full honour.
So, the mistake with you is: You expected that 8 out of 10 people will understand and accept you. But, in Kaliyuga, the dharma is existing with just 25% of strength. So, in this kaliyuga, out of four, three persons may misunderstand you and hurt you. Only one person will understand you correctly. In other words, only 25% of the people are reliable in this kaliyuga. Let us hope that the remaining 25% are also NOT corrupted in future. We have to pray for that.
(I have selfishness, ego and find fault on others. How to correct this nature? READ HERE!)
So, start to live with disappointments. I do not like to lie to you telling that this world is good, but, you only are wrong. The problem is, the world has become selfish in this kaliyuga. Everyone likes to suppress others and grow. They do not bother about the pains of others. You have to realize the ground reality of this world and learn to live according to it.
Even in the marital life, do you think that all couples are happily living in this world? Never. They are living together though they have some problems between them.. They may not tell these things outside. So, don’t think that you alone are betrayed. Almost all of us have faced some kind of betrayals in life. So, it is an universal phenomenon.
Why should you alone worry when crores of people are living along with the problems?
So, learn to live with selfish people. More than 800 crore people are living in this world like that only.
Learn and be prepared to face if our beloved people break our trust.
(What if others use me for their selfish motives though I help them? READ HERE!)