What if our Apology is not accepted by the other person?
A girl (Name hidden by me) asked like this:
“Good morning ji, if we apologize for what we never did, does it means we are a loser? I have a problem with my friend, it’s about one year already. It’s began when i have no time for her, she wanted me there when she need me. But i was so busy with my home work. I don’t know what is my mistake, she deleted me from BBM, Facebook and other social media. Even i met her, she even won’t look at me, talk to me. I had apologize once, and she still ignore me. And right now i think i need to apologize again. Please ji, give me a solution, do I need to apologize or not? I want to be her friend again.”
REPLY:
The best thing one can do in this situation when our apology is not accepted, is to stop interacting with her after asking for unconditional apology.
Did you take birth along with your friend?
Is it possible for you to take her with you when you die?
Can anything in our life stay with us permanently?
Can our parents and other relatives stay with us till we die?
(Is hiding the truths and past mistakes to others wrong? READ HERE!)
Then, why do you wish your friend to be with you all the time? When no relation is permanent for us, how can a friend be permanent?
People come and go in our life. It is unavoidable.
When we beg for something to someone, we definitely lose our image. This is what happened in your case also.
You say that you did not do anything wrong, but, your friend has misunderstood you. You even met her, explained yourself and apologized. Still she does not accept you again. She unfriended you in all media.
When she is this much adamant, why do you beg to her to accept you? Only because we beg for others’ mercy, others take us to ride.
Remember, we need not beg to anyone if we have not committed any wrong against him.
IN CASE YOU HAD SERIOUSLY HURT HER, TRY YOUR BEST TO GET HER PARDON WHENEVER SHE IS IN GOOD MOOD.
For this actual hurting, you can bear her insults again and again and get her pardon. This is the recommended procedure. This will relieve you from the karma of hurting her.
Since you did not hurt her, why should you bother and beg for pardon?
Humans are under illusion and hence they are the conditioned souls. So, when we show excessive respect even without committing any offenses, they behave as if extraordinary persons and hence ill treat us.
Keep this in mind. If you had hurt or offended anyone, you can ask for pardon. If you had committed no offenses, but they misunderstand you, then, you need not ask for pardon.
(HOW TO DEAL WITH THE JEALOUS PEOPLE WHO HURT OR CHEAT US? READ HERE!)
Though you ask for pardon for decency, if he/ she does not accept it, do not bother. She must be adamant.
So, forget such adamant friends though they were giving good time pass for us in the past. But, do not say any insulting words towards her. Just be silent.
Silence can make wonders compared to the words during testing situations.
So, forget her and stop talking to her. If she is destined to be a friend for you for long period in your life, she herself will come to you one day.
If she does not come, do not worry. Feel happy that you are saving your valuable time without her.
The persons whom we meet in our life are just our travel-mates or co tenants in this temporary material world.
No friendship or relationship is eternal. Keep this in mind.
Hope you are now clear about what to do if our apology is not accepted by the other person.
(How to respond if someone hurts us or act against us? READ HERE!)