10 tips for a woman to be safe when she is alone at home!
A woman follower (Name hidden) asked like this:
“I have few doubts.Please help me clear them: 1) My husband has a travelling job. He is constantly travelling. At that time I am all alone even at home. I fear as to what if something happens to me. In his absence, how should I protect my chastity and safety in this cruel age. 2) Why is cooking and taking care of household given only to women and not men in our scriptures? 3) As a women, I like to remain simple coz I believe Simplicity is a virtue. But these days I have observed no one believes in Simplicity and is only concerned in Show-off of their dresses, jewelleries, houses, cars and other achievements. In this situation how do I maintain Simplicity in lifestyle when people around me look down on me for being simple.”
We can just take some precautions, but, if the problem comes in spite of our vigil, we should act with courage.
However, there are some tips to avoid safety issues for women at home:
(1) REDUCE THE CONTACTS:
More unwanted contacts – more problems. Have contacts only with a few reliable persons. We can’t satisfy many people in our short life time and busy schedules that may invite unwanted problems. So, reduce the contacts and have only the reliable people.
(2) DO NOT INVITE UNWANTED PERSONS TO HOME:
This is very important. Just to spend time, you may invite some friends to talk. If they share your being alone to their circles, it may invite problems. So, let only the relatives come home.
(3) HAVE FRIENDSHIP ONLY OUTSIDE THE HOME:
This is also very important. Friendship need not be maintained within your home. It is a private place for you and your family live peacefully. So, do not invite friends to home unnecessarily except on some functions in your home. If important, discuss with them outside their home or through phone.
(4) DO NOT SHARE YOUR PERSONAL DETAILS ONLINE:
Now a days, most of the problems come because of sharing your family photos and details in social media, WhatsApp, etc. This may be smelled by some persons and they will know all about your life style and may target you to deceive. So, use online only for learning and discussing with close and reliable relatives and friends. Avoid giving all your personal details except the e-mail id in the settings of social media or any website. Do not add unknown persons in contacts or friend circle. If you use the social media only for talking to close relatives, you will be safe. Do not disclose in chats or comments or statuses that your husband has gone on tour. This is so dangerous.
(5) AVOID DOOR DELIVERY OF GOODS:
Except the unavoidable door deliveries such as gas supply, avoid other door delivery facilities. Some people order pizza, household articles, etc., and receive through door delivery. Thus allowing more and more persons to visit home for door delivery may help him to find that you are alone. So, go to the shop, purchase and bring to home yourself. Use door delivery in unavoidable circumstances alone.
(6) AVOID MAIDS:
Unless necessary, do not engage servant maids to work in your home for cleaning, washing, etc. Do them yourself. This is also a channel for your being alone to be leaked to others. She herself or her husband may make a plot if they happen to be not trustworthy.
(7) KEEP A METAL GRILL GATE BEFORE THE MAIN DOOR:
This is very important. Have a metal grill gate before the main door of the house. If anyone rings the bell, you can answer from behind the grill gate after opening the main door. This will prevent sudden entry of anyone inside your home with wrong motives. Do not allow any stranger even if he lies that he is sent by someone known to you. Always keep the grill gate locked with a lock.
(8) DO NOT ALLOW MARKETERS INSIDE THE HOME:
Many companies promote their products through door to door visits. Talk to them and say NO even from within the grill door. Do not allow them inside. It is unnecessary.
(9) GO OUT WITH A COMPANION IF POSSIBLE:
If you have relatives at home, take them with you when you go out to purchase something. Or, if not available, go out only for necessary purchases. Postpone the purchases till your husband comes back from work.
(10) KNOW THE EMERGENCY NUMBERS AND USE:
Register the numbers of local police, emergency police numbers, nearby relatives numbers in your contacts as the first two or three numbers. Even if their name start with “P”, ex, police, regiater the number as A-POLICE. It will be registered as the first number. It will be easy to find and call in case you face any security risk. Always keep the mobile phone with you. In case anyone starts to behave with ill motive, call the emergency numbers. Also keep the numbers of women police station in your area. In India, 100 is the police emergency numbers and in U.S, 911. Similarly, every country has their own emergency numbers to be called. Store and use them.
These are a few security tips a woman can take to remain safe. If you know more tips, share them in comments. I will add them if worthy.
Your other questions:
Someone has to do household duties. Women were doing them willingly once. Now a days, if both wife and husband goes to jobs, they can share the responsibilities and manage the family.
As far as simplicity is concerned, if we stop thinking that others are watching us, we will remain simple. Being simple is our own choice and others can’t comment on it. Be simple and have friendship only with those who respect your simplicity and do not ill advise you to be rich in outlook. That’s all.
Hope this helps you.