Teen children’s violent behaviour & Adolescent age issues! Managing Tips!

Teen children’s violent behaviour & Adolescent age issues! Managing Tips!

A mother asked:

“I am from Bangalore. My problem is very critical. My son was a soft boy since childhood. But, when he came to 9th standard, he started to act violently and gets angry for everything. We have not given any spiritual inputs to him and he does not like to come to temples and remains at home. Now, he suddenly comes and violently hugs his parents (me and my husband), that is very painful for us. Sometimes, he holds our head and shakes it fast. We understand that this is out of his love with us. But, what is the reason for teen age children’s violent behaviour? Previously he was very soft in his activities. Now, he seems to be tense always. His concentration too has come down in 9th standard. Is he having any psycho problem? Kindly clarify why he acts like that. What shall we do now? I will act upon your advice”


He is not a psycho. He is perfect. Adolescent teen children’s violent behaviour is natural in many cases! This is the problem for most of the parents when their school going boy/ girl attains the age of 13-14. Even my sister’s son acted like that and now alright.

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When the children attain the age of 13 or 14, their male/ female harmones start secreting more. For the boys, the harmone TESTOSTERONE starts secretions. For the girls, PROJESTERONE/ ESTROGEN starts secreting. When these harmones secrete, the bodies of the boys or girls will be very active and they may feel a new type of feeling. Their harmone secretion and blood circulation becomes very active. Therefore, they are unable to regulate their activities and hence they act violently.

In this age, they usually do not like to hear more advices. They are not able to concentrate in the school subjects, as these harmones may induce them to concentrate more in the activities that give pleasures to them. Therefore, many of them may be unable to give importance to the subjects.

The students may be like this between their ages 13-17 only. When they attain the age of 18 or 19, their harmone activities become stabilized and hence they may become normal persons like others. Their violent activities come to an end.

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In this age, most of the boys and girls would expect that others should appreciate and praise their outlook/ talents. SOME of these early teen boys and girls may feel happy if they are loved by the persons of opposite gender. That is why, SOME children of that age do not object if any relative/ family friend exploit/ abuse them wrongly. Because of this, there are more crimes against children in this world as the parents believe that the relatives and friends will never do wrong. That is why, our scriptures advise us not to allow the girl children to be touched by others once they attain the age of 8.

Therefore, the parents should keep vigil on the activities of their children between their ages of 13-17. This is the early age in which their knowledge of “which is right and which is wrong” is hidden by the harmones that increase their emotional quotient. This is the age in which the nerves conquer the ethics and principles! If the parents do not monitor and advise the children in these five years, there are 50% chances for their children involving in prohibited activities.

These problems are not existing in all the boys and girls, but, atleast with 50% of the boys and girls. Boys are affected more than girls by these harmones, as girls usually are regulated in our society from mingling with others freely.

Therefore, don’t worry. Your son will become alright in just 2-3 years. Be patient till that. But, watch his external activities silently and if he goes on wrong route, advise like a friend or take him to a counsellor in the beginning itself.

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You can put your son to be in the group of devotees, as this may reduce his violent behaviour. He may start to see girls with respect in temples. And, ask him to chant God’s Name atleast 108 times daily. Let him read the books or articles about God during these days.

Thus, you can maintain him till he attains the age 18 and thereafter, he may become normal as his harmones would have come to a stabilized state.

Sometimes, these children may commit some violations with the persons of opposite gender. Erring is common in this age in which the emotions dominate intelligence. If you find any such acts, do not treat them harshly.  Advise them in a friendly manner. It is their attempt to try what they newly feel during this adolescent age.  If you had given sufficient guidance right from his age 7 or 8 about how to manage such harmone disturbances during the teen age it will help him to avoid such violations.

Friendly and kind approach with the children (though they commit some mistakes) is very important in this adolescent teen age.

Moreover, do not allow these adolescent children, particularly girl children with any male in private places.  Give them sufficient guidance to find out bad touches.


Show sufficient love to him during these critical ages and bear his acts. There are some medications in the form of tablets to make him non violent. However it is not necessary as one should wait till he crosses the critical age of 17. If he continues so even after that age, one can approach the doctor.

Hope this helps for Managing adolescent teen children’s violent behaviour!  All the best for you and your son.

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Author: RAJAN

Having a long observation and association with all sections of people for decades, Rajan is promoting online media in different platforms including this blog website to guide lakhs of regular followers to prevent and solve their problems. He gives complete Counsellings and Tips on Medical, Health, Psychological, Women safety, Child safety, Issues in Family Relations, Love, Marriage, Personal life, etc.! His services have helped thousands of people to come out of negative thoughts and to change their way of approaching the problems in their life and hence he is considered as their trusted FRIEND to share the problems and get them counselled. He is also well known to follow strict confidentiality in his counselling services.

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